A Healthy Stepmother . . . Sayings II

This blog was inspired by a set of sayings that burbled out of my brain one night almost 4 months ago. You can catch up with that first group of Stepmother Sayings and freely pass them along, my only request is that you give credit or link back to this blog.

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A healthy stepmother is benign.

An essential stepmother lesson . . . to accept that you’re not perfect, you never will be, and that’s good enough.

A stepmother knows that waiting is simply a very long pause.

A successful stepfamily is rooted in respectful co-existence.

In stepfamilies, less trying = less crying.

When the going gets tough, a healthy stepmother let’s go.

A healthy stepmother tends the garden that is her marriage.

Like healthy flowers, a stepmother requires nutrients and well-drained soil to fully bloom.

A healthy stepmother knows that some days she’s a stage hand, some days she’s the leading lady, and some days she’s the audience, and she plays each role with grace and style.

Some days . . .

2 thoughts on “A Healthy Stepmother . . . Sayings II

  1. There are days when I simply realize that a healthy stepmother focuses on what is best for her, the kids, and her family, and understands that the outside world will always consider itself an expert on her personal life…but the only experts are the members of her own family! A lot of stress is worrying what others think or if we are doing what is “right”. I narrowed that question to simply, am I doing what is best for the kids?

  2. Smirking Cat, thanks for coming on over here and commenting. Welcome! I took a quick peek at your blog and will definitely go back when I get a few more minutes.

    You’re so right to focus on what is best for you, your relationship, your kids, and your family. No one else can know what you need and honestly, some of the self-help books out there are building an even larger guilt-trip for women who are married to “man with children.”

    And, guaranteed, we get caught in our first family patterns, then dumped into the bucket with our current family’s habits . . . only since we are new to the bucket and the adjustment can be shocking and terrifying, it takes a certain amount of time to adjust. . . maybe even years of people saying, “what are you doing in our bucket?” Finally, we calm, relax, and begin making decisions like you’re describing.

    About time, eh?

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