For the New Stepmother
- Becoming a stepmother is like traveling to another country to live for a year and falling into a depression when you arrive. Though you were excited and amazed and in wonder at the adventure, there’s also loss and a feeling of not belonging. It seems pretty normal to have an adjustment period and that’s my concern: we don’t cut ourselves much slack.
- Becoming a stepmother is like moving in with a houseful of strangers, except that if everyone was a stranger you’d all be on a level playing field.
- A new stepmother often experiences the shock of being thrown in the deep end without knowing how to swim.
- A stepmother will often find herself trying to love a pack of porcupines.
For the Been-There-Awhile Stepmother
- A stepmother’s biggest hurdle is meeting and making friends with her own emotions.
- The stepmother who can find, hold, and nurture the place inside her will always feel at home.
- The stepmother who sees herself as a whole, complete person will fare well in any situation.
- A smart stepmother builds a safety net.
- A stepmother feels sad when things are sad, troubled when things are troubling, curious when things don’t make sense, and satisfied when things are good enough.
For the Well-Seasoned Stepmother
- A healthy stepmother embraces good enough.
- A healthy stepmother learns to let sleeping dogs lie.
- A healthy stepmother finds her breath before she hurls her voice.
- A healthy stepmother lowers her expectations without letting go of her integrity.
- A healthy stepmother finds a quality to respect about each of her husband’s children..
And, the one that started this whole blog . . . a healthy stepmother worries about filling her own shoes.
Anything you’d like to add?