A Healthy Stepmother . . . wishing you well on Thanksgiving!

I’ve just put the turkey in the oven and find myself with the urge to sneak over here to the blog and give a shout out to all the stepmothers out there who feel a little off-kilter in their own home. This note is for you. May you find a moment in today that glitters just for you, whether it’s a hug with the hubs, a moment of giving thanks for having a roof/warmth/food, or a walk with the dogs.

I was looking back through the posts from years past and wanted to make it easy for you to find them. Here’s one, Holidays 2010. Here’s another, Thanksgiving 2011.

And, I don’t know what year it was nor the post, but I can swear I told the story here at one point of one side of my stepfamily sitting around the table taking turns telling what we were grateful for. When it came my turn, I blurted out that I was thankful I had made it through the year without killing anyone. I was making a joke about how challenging it had been to keep my temper when it felt like the unrest in my stepfamily was almost intolerable. I can’t find the post, maybe one of you will. But, I remember vividly the looks on everyone’s faces. Jaws dropped, they couldn’t believe I had said it. I laughed and they realized I was at least half-joking. I’m not sure if it’s my imagination, but they might have taken me a little more seriously or compassionately after that moment. As if I was a human and had feelings and might now and then have sensitivities to what was going on around me.

Anyway…..I’m being called to coffee and toast. Big dinner later.

Blessings to each of you, one step at a time. One moment at a time. One thankful event at a time.

 

2 thoughts on “A Healthy Stepmother . . . wishing you well on Thanksgiving!

  1. A late comment for sure, but thank you for all you do. Reading your blog makes me feel so much better about myself and my life. I am a stepmother and boy, is this a tough gig! Knowing there are others who share my journey sure does make it a bit easier, so I am grateful.

    Hoping your Thanksgiving was a lovely one. This was the first one in years that was actually rather pleasant. Baby steps…

    • Talia, your words settle around me like a warm fleece blanket. That’s the entire reason I began this blog, summed up there in your comment, “Reading your blog makes me feel so much better about myself and my life.” Yes, indeed, there are many others who share your journey. We are, as a group, not so vocal, especially my readers. My perception is that the readers on my blog are not here to vent or malign. No, each woman who reads here is primarily interested in finding the path to connection with herself, her husband/partner, and her children/stepchildren. I’ll keep writing from the heart and the gut and we’ll see how it all goes. Maybe we’ll look back one day and realize the newer generation of stepmothers was able to benefit from our conversations. Best to you. Baby steps to us all…

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