A Healthy Stepmother . . . listens to Mavis.

Happened to hear this song today . . . and it seemed like such an anthem for so many of us. A stepmother down the street from me feels completely isolated and alone and unheard and unseen. And I remember feeling that way, but longer ago. And, some of you that read this blog, you have told me you’re isolated and not with a stepmother-sister. So, this is a shout out to all of you who are in your house, on your street, in your community but still feeling alone.

And, to prove her point, she’s been singing songs like this for a long time . . .

As she says, everybody has a friend of a friend of a friend . . .

A StepCouple Playlist

Sometimes, life is getting a little like the doldrums . . . hmmm, maybe the adult version of the dreaded boredom. Or, worse, your and your dearest are not feeling very connected and you need some inspiration and some fear-and-anxiety-busting shift of mood. Well, here it is, it’s for you, for him, for the two of you together. So, let’s spice things up a little and get you a playlist that will get some bounce in your step. This isn’t inclusive, there are dozens of songs that might appeal.

These are just a few I’ve heard in the last few days, not in order of preference OR soothing versus inspiring.

Bitter Heart, Zee Avi, Okay, so don’t take the lyrics too literally. But, this is a great retro piece and it’s all about a woman with a bitter heart. I think we stepmothers are in danger of getting bitter hearts and not letting them go. So, sometimes I like to sing this and it opens my heart just a little and let’s me move ON to the next thing.

Heartbreak Warfare, John Mayer, This is another great one for when things aren’t so “perfect.” It’s just awesome to have someone singing a SONG about what we’re all going through, whether it’s all the yummy stuff or the yukky stuff. “If you want  more love why don’t you say so?” Excellent question!

Say Hey, Michael Franti. Get ready to jump up and dance with this video. It is transcontinental and trans-generational. Love the spirit.

Hold You in My Arms, Ray LaMontagne, Read that someone recently got married to this song as they walked down the isle. It’s beautiful, just beautiful. Sink right in.

Has Anybody Seen My Mind, Michael Franti, this is such a great song for when you’re over-stressed and feeling a little out-of-body-ish.

A Lifetime, Ziggy Marley, “A Lifetime isn’t Enough to Love You.” Great one!!!!

Imagine, John Lennon, A classic . . . what more needs to be said. Let’s go for PEACE, which isn’t la-la-la, it’s more about not fighting, not escalating, not wanting, not needing. It’s all basic needs met and being satisfied with what one has. P.E.A.C.E.

Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell. Wow, what an amazing song and a great video. Some of you will get the flashback like I did. Some of you will be impressed with the simplicity of the first music video era, sort of like the first episodes of Star Trek. Makes me wanna dance around the room.

Dream of Peace, LeRoy Bell. This guy used to be a song-writer and at mid-life has made the switch to bringing his own voice to the stage. Wow, is all I can say. We saw him in Portland at the Aladdin and he was tremendous. Good spirit, good wishes.

Simply the Best, Tina Turner. Do I need to make any comments on this one? Get your wine glasses out and blast this when your sweetie comes home from work.